It's been a while since I've started feeling. I'm not sure when it started. Probably around when I was 1-3 years old? Who knows!
Anyway, with my experience of about 27 years, I present to you my thoughts on some emotions I've experienced while living and feeling as a person sorted in no particular order.
Feel free to tell me about your own experience with emotions. I love being human and understanding how others experience this world.
I like anger since it lets me understand what I care about more clearly. It gives me a good perspective of what I'm craving and also gives me an opportunity to rethink what I'm doing and see if I should be taking another direction. Like all things, excessive anger is bad and is super embarassing afterwards, so avoid it if you can but when you do feel some genuine anger, then appreciate it and feel the moment - I think this is what I think about almost every emotion to be honest. Give emotions a chance and see how well it helps you understand yourself. Also, it can be fun to overanalyze yourself too.
When you're angry do you grind your teeth? Do your ears feel a little hot? Eyes about to pop out? And what's with the violent tendencies! that's so weird!
Having felt anger multiple times in my life, after reflecting on it, I've always found it funny and a little embarassing that it evokes a violent reaction too. Like there is an urge to just throw something on the ground and watch it break. Like why even??
I don't like it. Frustration causes anger but I like anger but not frustration at all. Why? cuz it's frustrating. It feels like a loss of control. I don't like frustration. Wouldn't recommend. 1/10.
It does feel nice sometimes but for a really small amount of time. Prolonged sessions of frustrations are incredibly annoying.
It does not bring joy.
It's good till it's not. It can be sus but just feel it and don't cling to it.
There's more to life than just being happy. You have a lot to do. Don't waste your potential over something so small. Happiness should just be a side-effect and not a focus. Keep it like an afterthought and ignore it when you can.
On the contrary, do bring about happines in people you care about. Why, you ask? cuz you care about them.
Happiness can be pleasant but making others happy is even better.
So, despite the fact that it can be nice, do not chase it. You don't really need it. It's okay. Stay vigilant. We got this.
It is (or at least used to be) one of my favourites. Sadness is related to anger in some way, because it evokes similar feelings but anger is just a little pointy I guess.
Being sad also gives me more perspective on what I care about and I like it. Sadness is not only an indicator but also a good "refresh". By that I mean the Refresh in "Windows XP" or a version of Windows where you could right click on the desktop and click on "Refresh" (or press F5) and feel better. Excpet it's not that quick.
I believe tears completely let go of the sadness, so let out the tears! That's like free therapy.
It's an emotion and it can feel satisfying in a weird way. Do not chase it either, but do not avoid it when it comes. Sadness is important and underrated. Feel it fully. It's not every day you get to be human.
No. or yes. I don't know about this one. There are certain things that I fear extremely and I don't want to let the feeling of fear take over.
But there are also other times when fear feels good because it makes me feel more energetic. It gives a little adrenalin boost which is quite nice.
So, overall, maybe 5/10.
No. But I like to understand what people are disgusted about. Thinking about these things from a third person perspective makes it really funny. because it makes us realise that everything is so human and humans are cute.
I don't like the feeling of disgust, because it can sometimes evoke a physical reactions which can be really bad and humiliating besides the desire of erasing my memory or something.
I like it. But really depends on the situation. Also, only good surprises. I am not a fan of being surprised just for the sake of it. I mean sure I acknowledge that the world is unpredictable but you don't have to shove it against my face. So I guess I do not like surpises after all. (unless you're planning to gift me something nice - then please go ahead)
It's really good. One of my favourites for sure. It's a top tier emotion. It also feeds into itself. Loving increases love. Practicing this mindfully is a real game-changer.
The downside is that it can set you up to a big punch of sadness. But what's life without the risk. Embrace love and keep moving forward.
I'm a lucky person to be born in this world and I'm even more lucky to be loved.
To be loved is something not in our control, but to love is, and this verb creates the emotion itself. Don't wait for it to happen to you. Deeply value everything. Let's live this life.
It can assure you that you do have some kind of moral compass. I'm not that much of a fan. I recommend preventing guilt by not doing things you'd ever be guilty about. But if you do feel this feeling, then I'd recommend understanding yourself and fixing the source of the guilt instead of avoiding the feeling. Otherwise, it sucks. Cuz what are you without your values?
And what if you can't fix the source of the feeling? after all, one can't unmuder someone. You need to really evaluate your values and willingly pay the price. It's important to define what is you, and then be you unapologetically.
Pride is good as long as it doesn't devolve into something ugly. Pride in yourself and others will make you secure about your position in the world.
7/10
I think people often mistake pride with ego. And think one is good and the other bad. Or both bad. But folks, I'm here to tell you that both are good. Do not diminish your ego. because that is you. Respect yourself a little. Put all your energy into becoming what you imagine yourself to be. There is a lot stopping you, but that's upto you to either manage your expectations or go through with it and overcome all the obstacles in your way. Anyway, if this isn't your thing, if what I'm saying doesn't resonate with you, I'd at least suggest starting with prioritizing yourself over others maybe. Or just standing up for yourself when you feel someone with a healthy self-esteem would.
One of the secrets of being happy is to care about yourself and develop yourself to the point you're prideful about something. At a level, you might feel arrogant too but if you keep developing yourself, the arrogance turns out to just be a phase you have moved on from to see a world full of people like you. And that makes you happy and more excited to face the world.
I do not like feeling it. And I usually don't envy cuz who cares. but when I do I prefer to understand the source and create a goal. Envy towards someone makes me feel that I'm lesser than them when I know I'm not. Envy happens when people of your own level move ahead and you're left behind. Sure, you can justify it to yourself that they had better circumstances or you had worse, but the situation is that they are at a better place than you are, and reframing the situation in your mind is not going to change that.
So, to deal with envy, my solution is to create a goal that puts you ahead of the person you envy. Now the next thing is whether you're motivated enough to follow through and accomplish the goal - if you're not, then well you know that you don't really care about it anyway. If you do have the motivation and did try and then fail, then just accept that you don't deserve accomplishing that since you do not have the skills to do so regardless of whether the person you envy had the skills or not. So, keep trying and work hard till you reach where you want to if you care enough.
Do not blame luck for your incompetence. Be hard on yourself and lenient on others.
But more importantly, live your own life.
Y'all know I like hope. I'm a crazy optimist. I'm a dreamer. I get high on hope.
Despite the odds, I never stop hoping for things to improve. And I believe that's one of the defining points of my character. Hope brings me happiness, it gives me comfort and encouragement.
"Meet the Robinsons", one of my favourite movies despite all the logical flaws in it,
has this line "Keep moving forward" which is their family motto. It represents hope.
The main character despite all the set backs just needs to keep moving forward.
In the movie, the kid would after the end of it know what his future is like and it's
easy for him to keep moving forward cuz he knows he's gonna be happy anyway.
Most people though do not have the privilege of time traveling to the future and looking
at their future self to be assured that whatever they're doing would have some benefit.
We don't know what's gonna happen. We can put in all our effort. Make plans and backup plans but there is never a guarantee that what you want is gonna happen. Despite that, you need to keep working towards your dream. You need to hope that what you're doing matters, that you're building the future.
Without hope, life loses it's meaning. A meaningless life is meaningful too. But it has what I'm gonna call "implicit hope" (I'll probable explain in some other blog article idk). Which is not a bad thing, my point is that it's still hope. So, no matter what. Do not lose that hope. Keep moving foward. We'll get there.
It's a beautiful feeling. It has a romance to it. I think anxeity lets you live.
Do you think anxeity and fear are the same thing? And please forgive me if I misspell anxiety too. I'm really bad at spelling sometimes. Maybe even worse at emotions. But I'm gonna do my best (or not). Being anxious creeps you out, keeps you on edge, makes you forget what really matters at the end of the day. Anxiety is sadness and panic and feeling your heart beat fast and loud. Anxiety is the world vibrating and you don't know what to do with it. I like anxiety from a distance. After I've moved ahead from it, it is a feeling that I consider nice. And during it, it is difficult to think about feelings. "This sucks" is something I'd imagine myself to feel. Reframing it to excitement could help if that's even possible. The problem is that excitement doesn't have the same connotations as anxiety.
That's also a reason why I prefer anxeity over excitement. Excitement just doesn't hit the same way.
I believe one should go through it. Feel it. Understand it. And then slowly and eventually in healthy ways try to get rid of it if you can. I'm sorry if you can't. I hope you find ways to deal with it somehow anyway.
a feeling of reverential respect mixed with fear or wonder. It can be triggered by nature, art, human achievements, or even abstract concepts
I'm always in awe about all the things around me. If I describe all of it, it's probably super annoying. cuz it's not even like something complex like a computer (which is ridiculously crazy to think about) but also just even the fact that I'm living on the second floor! Like what?? How even? all my furniture is here and the floor can handle all that without breaking down. I'm literally in the sky!
I am very interested in human progress and I look forward to a lot more ambitious projects we're upto.
I've always wished I could contribute towards it and I dream that maybe I will as a lot of people do!
I love the feeling of awe. I love the media or inventions that brings about that feeling. I want to feel this way more often. Good job, humanity.
Stay strong.
What is a life? And what is a life worth living? I don't know. I'd love to find out. I like my life. It's not perfect. But, you know, it's not bad. And so me saying that despite all the bad things in life I'm content with it would be ridiculous. I don't have a bad life. Nor do I have a great life. Nor have I achieved all the dreams I have. There are lots of things I've done wrong in my life and lots of things I've thought I should have done better or others should have done better. There's no end to these things. I believe despite all of the "incompleteness" it's possible to be content about life.
By "incompleteness", I mean your desires or regrets or whatever keeps one traditionally from feeling content in their life.
You can lose everything and still be content. You can have dreams to gain everything you've lost and you can still be content.
In the model that I have, every emotion is compatible with contentment. I think this comes by detaching your life from "you". An analogy that can help is imagining you are playing a video game, and all the challenges or hardships or wrong decisions are done by the player you're controlling. You can of course be mad and throw the controller and break the TV. But. you know. it's just a game. Sure, feel angry a little when your character is losing. Re-think your decisions when you feel you've missed out on something. But despite all that, it's YOUR character. Just control it and let it do weird things and see how it goes.
You're playing this game and of course the objectives do matter (since you set those yourself), but you can still enjoy the game, appreciate the texture on the flower things and applaud the animation from time to time. You can hang around and complete side quests, you can just ignore all the quests and chill with your buddies or something. You can even change the objectives completely if you want! It's upto you, isn' it?
You are controlling your character. You are not the character. I do have goals and desires but they're
something that don't disrupt my contentment. The desires complement my character, make it complete and
make the game more fun to play!
And no it doesn't mean you live your life less fully by detaching from the character but the opposite in fact - it
gives you awareness, it gives you the agency and a sense of responsibility by highlighting the obvious fact
we often overlook: you're the only who can change your life and you can do it by making your character
doing the things that can help bring about the change.
I think that contentment is something people should experience. It's nice. It's chill. You don't have to figure everything out to reach here.